My wife’s brothers won’t talk to her because of something I said

My wife’s brothers won’t talk to her because of something I said

DEAR ABBY: Just lately, my spouse advised me her brothers have been mad at her for greater than a decade and don’t discuss to her due to one thing I stated at a household get-together 12 years in the past. I requested what they have been mad about and what the dialogue was about that upset them, however they didn’t say — they only stop contacting her. To me, it’s infantile and impolite to deal with their sister that approach. Do you’ve gotten any ideas or recommendations? — DID NOT KNOW IN THE SOUTH

DEAR DID NOT: Sure, I do. The time period for what your spouse’s brothers have been doing is “passive aggression.” As a result of your spouse’s brothers aren’t prepared to handle the difficulty, nothing could be carried out to resolve it. For this reason I counsel the 2 of you — and no matter different relations you do get together with — go on along with your lives and waste no extra time trying again.

DEAR ABBY: Now we have a bunch of buddies who get collectively most Friday nights. We exit to eat, meet for drinks or collect at one of many group member’s houses for dinner and drinks. One particular person specifically always complains about every little thing each single week. 

They don’t just like the restaurant that was chosen, or the meals the host ready or the place the pizza was ordered from. As soon as, they stored repeatedly telling the host they wished to punch the host’s son within the face as a result of he was impolite to the host on his approach out for the night. This visitor’s partner additionally nitpicks relentlessly. It makes all people uncomfortable. 

It has reached the purpose that the group doesn’t wish to get collectively anymore due to the damper this couple places on the night. My partner and I haven’t seen the group for a number of weeks now, however we miss them. Is there a well mannered strategy to inform this couple their negativity is a drag on the remainder of the group, and perhaps they need to search skilled assist or study to maintain their mouths shut? — DOWN WITH THE DOWNER

DEAR DOWN: No, there isn’t. However you could possibly cease inviting this explicit couple. In case you are requested about it, all it’s important to say is that you simply grew bored with their fixed criticism, which put a damper on the occasions.

DEAR ABBY: My daughter is married with two kids and, to date, she’s pleased with a beautiful husband and a stupendous dwelling. My concern — or curiosity — is that they’ve hung professionally carried out images of themselves, their youngsters, their buddies and candid photographs from their wedding ceremony in most of the rooms on the primary ground, however there are none of my husband and me or the opposite grandparents. Each Christmas we obtain one other framed household picture of them. What would you suppose if we gifted them a beautiful portrait of us? — UNSEEN IN MINNESOTA

DEAR UNSEEN: I believe it’s price a strive, however don’t be offended in the event that they don’t show it. They look like so centered on their nuclear household that there isn’t room for anybody else of their picture-perfect home.

DEAR READERS: Time flies! Daylight saving time ends at 2 a.m. Sunday. Don’t neglect to show your clocks again one hour at bedtime tonight. And whilst you’re at it, make sure to put contemporary batteries in your fireplace alarms and smoke detectors. — LOVE, ABBY

Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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