DEAR ABBY: My father, who’s 84, simply had a gentle stroke. The issue is he needs to drive his automotive. My sister says we should always simply let him, however I don’t suppose he’s able to driving safely anymore. She says we are able to’t legally cease him from driving.
Dad has occasional dizzy spells and double imaginative and prescient, which began the day he had a stroke a number of weeks in the past. He has additionally misplaced lots of weight and has been instructed he must eat a heart-healthy weight loss plan and eat extra. Dad has diabetes and excessive ldl cholesterol. He has had issues together with his reminiscence currently, too, and never simply age-related. He can’t keep in mind particulars from docs’ appointments, forgets to take his blood stress a pair instances a day and might’t keep in mind what he’s presupposed to do for bodily remedy.
I feel we needs to be taking good care of Dad now and driving him wherever he must go. I personally don’t want him endangering himself or others if he drives. Please advise. — CAUTIOUS IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR CAUTIOUS: It’s time for a critical household dialogue about the right way to deal with this. Your father wants much more assist than chauffeur service. He wants somebody to accompany him to docs’ appointments, and somebody to oversee or administer his drugs. He shouldn’t be behind the wheel of a automotive, and I’m not even positive he needs to be dwelling alone. His physician needs to be contacted about informing the DMV about your father’s well being standing. He may additionally want assisted dwelling if it’s financially possible.
DEAR ABBY: I’m 40 years outdated, and I’ve been consuming a plant-based weight loss plan since highschool. I’m in nice form, and my physician could be very happy with my well being standing. For greater than 20 years, family and friends have worn me all the way down to the place I’m working brief on gracious responses relating to them difficult what I placed on my plate. Many instances, individuals really feel the necessity to point out at work or at a celebration that I’m vegan (I don’t know why), and the room instantly is concentrated on me. Then somebody at all times asks how I get my protein.
I often attempt to maintain the temper mild, so I reply them. However I’ve grown bored with being questioned as a result of most of the time, it doesn’t cease. They need me to enter element about why I eat what I eat (or don’t eat). They inform me how they couldn’t be wholesome or couldn’t hand over cheese. I get caught in the course of a monologue that feels loads like I’m being bullied and judged.
I don’t wish to really feel pushed round, however I additionally wish to maintain it mild. How can I inform them I don’t wish to focus on my consuming habits with out sounding impolite? I don’t decide them and would love the identical respect. — PROUD VEGAN IN OREGON
DEAR VEGAN: Generally it ain’t what you say, however the way you say it. When you can muster a smile whenever you reply, “I got here right here to have a great time, not focus on my weight loss plan. Let’s change the topic,” it’d finish the dialogue. Comply with it up with, “What’s everyone watching on Netflix?”
Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.