DEAR ABBY: I’ve been seeing a lady for shut to 2 years. We’re a pair, and we sleep in the identical mattress. She says she’s my woman and I’m her man. But, in any case this time, she nonetheless gained’t have intercourse with me. I can’t cease considering she’s doing it with any person else. She’s 40; I’m 50. What’s happening? — BEWILDERED IN OREGON
DEAR BEWILDERED: I might be all in favour of figuring out how this girl has been responding when you have requested her why she gained’t have intercourse with you. In the event you haven’t executed that, the time to have requested was after you began sharing the identical mattress. Don’t let your creativeness run wild, as a result of she is probably not seeing anybody else. The reply could also be that she has no sexual urges in any respect. If that’s the case, you need to know so you may determine if that is the sort of relationship you need.
DEAR ABBY: My daughter is about to show 14 and needs to get a job. We simply came upon that in our state, 14- and 15-year-olds can work in the event that they get a allow. I’m very involved. I attempted negotiating along with her by telling her that her dad and I’ll give her a job at dwelling and pay her, however she insists on working to assist with our household funds. I’ve congestive coronary heart failure and adrenal insufficiency, which is why I can’t work outdoors the house. Her dad, my husband, is the one supply of revenue.
Whereas I like her want to assist out financially, I’m very anxious about her being out within the workforce. I’m not paranoid. At numerous factors throughout my youth, I used to be sexually abused and assaulted by a number of males. Realistically, it’s harmful, and I personally suppose she’s manner too younger to work outdoors the house. Please inform me if I’m being overly protecting, or whether or not my issues are official. — APPRECIATIVE BUT WORRIED
DEAR APPRECIATIVE: Your daughter is to be applauded for wanting to assist with the household funds. To me it reveals her degree of maturity. As a result of she’s inexperienced within the methods of the world, you and her father ought to sit down along with her for some frank discussions.
Clarify what sexual harassment is and make it clear that if she feels any stress in any respect, she ought to inform you so you may assist her safely cope with it. Not like years in the past, right now there are legal guidelines that give protection to feminine staff. She ought to perceive what the time period “hostile work setting” means. So long as she is aware of she will come to you and her dad about something that makes her uncomfortable, she must be secure.
DEAR VETERANS: To your service to our nation, I salute you. My thanks to every of you on this Veterans Day. You’re the personification of patriotism, self-sacrifice and dedication to our nation. I might additionally like to acknowledge your households for the sacrifices they, too, have made whilst you have been serving your nation. — Love, ABBY
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.