DEAR ABBY: I’m a 60-year-old feminine. Over the previous 10 years, folks have more and more been calling me “Sir” in public. I hate it. I’m going to the salon to get my hair and brows performed and put on female apparel and sneakers. I often carry a handbag, however not at all times. I’ve an athletic construct, and I do put on T-shirts usually (I taught bodily schooling for 30 years). My response is, “My identify is ‘Susan.’”
Do you could have another strategies? It’s making me loopy. This has been happening too lengthy. Immediately when it occurred, I had been able to make a purchase order, however as a substitute walked out of a furnishings retailer as a result of I used to be so offended. Their loss. — ALL WOMAN IN THE SOUTH
DEAR ALL WOMAN: You might be dealing with these feedback as adeptly as doable. The one who addresses you because the flawed gender ought to be rightly embarrassed while you reply that your identify is Susan. Leaving a retailer fairly than making an costly buy was additionally the proper factor to do. You shouldn’t have to alter your look in the event you don’t want to. who you’re. Strive dealing with the feedback with humor and see if that works higher.
DEAR ABBY: My niece, “Amanda,” is nineteen and pretty shut with my daughter “Hayley,” who is eighteen. Since graduating from highschool and thru her first yr away at school, Amanda has been going out of city to fulfill males she meets on-line. Amanda shares her location with Hayley by way of Snapchat “in case one thing occurs.” My niece is doing this with out letting anybody (apart from Hayley) know and sometimes makes use of my daughter as a canopy to her dad and mom.
These aren’t simply dinner dates, however often weekends away from house. Hayley at all times tells me when Amanda is away. We’re each involved about her habits, as human trafficking could be very actual. I’ve tried speaking to Amanda about it, however she insists she’s protected and is aware of what she is doing. My query is, ought to I inform my sister (her mother) or not? They don’t actually get alongside, and this can certainly make issues worse. — AFRAID FOR HER IN IDAHO
DEAR AFRAID: Amanda is taking part in with hearth. In case your daughter have been strolling on a ledge 20 tales above the sidewalk, considering “she is aware of what she’s doing,” wouldn’t you wish to be notified? Her father ought to be tipped off as properly if he’s within the image. Somebody must get by way of to that lady, who appears decided to place herself in hurt’s manner.
DEAR ABBY: My getting older father lives lots of of miles away from me. I attempt to name him every single day, but it surely looks like my calls usually are not welcome. I’m the one individual he has contact with apart from his caregivers. Ought to I preserve making an attempt or surrender? — DISCOURAGED DAUGHTER IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR DAUGHTER: Don’t surrender. Is that this regular habits in your father’s half? If it isn’t, he ought to be examined by his physician to make sure he hasn’t had a stroke or gone right into a cognitive decline. It’s crucial his well being standing in addition to whether or not there have been different modifications in his life that will account for his habits. Pay him a go to, if that’s doable. I can not stress this too strongly.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.