I can’t choose between my boyfriend and my best friend

I can’t choose between my boyfriend and my best friend

DEAR ABBY: I not too long ago began speaking to this man from my previous. I actually like him. We’ve been on and off for a yr now as a result of we each had issues in our lives that wanted consideration first (i.e., my bipolar despair and in search of counseling). 

Anyway, my greatest buddy has threatened to take away me from her life if I pursue a relationship with him. On one hand, this man makes me really feel like I’m on fireplace — in a great way, in fact. However, however, I don’t wish to lose my greatest buddy. What do I do? — HARD CHOICE IN ILLINOIS

DEAR HARD CHOICE: You omitted one thing vital out of your letter. WHY does your greatest buddy object to this man so strongly? Is she jealous? May it have one thing to do along with his points? The final time you had been with him, did it finish badly? HOW badly? Your greatest buddy could also be trying to avoid wasting you, however she’s going about it clumsily. Speak to her.

DEAR ABBY: Fifteen years in the past, I “ran away from residence” to get away from my grownup youngsters, and I lastly made a life for myself. They had been in a position to keep in the home as a result of I continued to pay the mortgage. Their dad — my ex — and his household all lived close by. 

Now, none of my youngsters desires something to do with me or my household, they usually don’t need any communication from me. I think they really feel deserted, since I used to be the mother or father they might all the time depend on. Is there something I can do to restore our relationship? — RUNAWAY MOM IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR MOM: Sure, inform your youngsters you’re promoting the home, which, I assume, you now personal outright. I’m fairly certain they’ll start “speaking” with you as quickly as phrase reaches them. You had been greater than beneficiant by maintaining these home funds so they might have a roof over their heads. In case you needed to “run away” from their bottomless pit of want, you probably did the best factor. Please don’t permit your self for use any additional. You saved your self, and also you shouldn’t really feel unhappy or responsible for having accomplished it.

DEAR ABBY: Just lately, a buddy got here to my residence. I supplied espresso and cake, which I had already sliced and positioned on plates. She responded that she wasn’t hungry proper then and would take it residence for later, and requested me for wrapping or a container to place it in. After all, I complied, however I’ve by no means heard of such a factor, though diners typically take residence uneaten meals from a restaurant. Am I out of step right here, or have I obtained a proper to be as shocked as I used to be? — SURPRISED HOSTESS 

DEAR SURPRISED: In case you had been “shocked” by what she did, you have to be delicate certainly. Your buddy was sincere with you. Give her credit score for it. She might love the cake you supplied, however is watching her weight and thought she’d pop it within the freezer to take pleasure in one other time. I do know of no rule of etiquette that dictates an individual should eat a pastry within the presence of the hostess.

Expensive Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Expensive Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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