A misogynist gets called out

A misogynist gets called out

DEAR ABBY: I want to reply to “Prepared To Bail in New Jersey” (Sept. 1), who was complaining about ladies being on their telephones on a regular basis. Does this man have any concept how a lot data and communication is shared electronically now? Work emails, faculty emails, group texts about varied child actions, and even grocery purchasing are all finished on a cellphone. 

That is 2022. Ladies have lots happening of their lives, and we use our telephones to perform most issues. We aren’t always simply scrolling by social media. Perhaps the ladies he was referring to try to keep away from contact with him due to his ridiculous view of girls. — MICHELLE IN ILLINOIS

DEAR MICHELLE: I warned “Prepared” that my readers would have lots to say about his letter and whether or not he’s, certainly, a misogynist. Properly, you all got here by — in massive numbers. Learn on:

DEAR ABBY: When you begin a sentence declaring you’re not a misogynist, you most likely are one. In that man’s case, make {that a} particular. If I needed to endure his firm, I’d be on my cellphone, too, calling an Uber to take me the heck out of there. — EMILY IN TEXAS

DEAR ABBY: I agree with “Prepared,” but it surely’s not simply ladies who do that. Individuals of each sexes are always on their telephones and oblivious to what’s happening round them. I’m a mother of three babies, and I like organizing play dates with different dad and mom and youngsters. Not often are the opposite dad and mom eager about chatting for any size of time or watching our youngsters play. They like to take photographs for social media and scroll by their telephones. I get it — we’re all drained and lengthy for relaxation time. Nonetheless, I do really feel {that a} good conversationalist is difficult to search out. Typically I want this expertise didn’t exist. I lengthy for a deeper reference to different people. — KASSIE IN MARYLAND

DEAR ABBY: Talking man-to-man, I’d inform “Prepared” that he has no actual understanding of girls. Whether or not or not he’s a misogynist by definition, his view of girls relies solely on stereotypes and tropes. Most telling was his assertion about “purchasing, which is a feminine habit.” What a ridiculous notion, no totally different than saying all males have an interest solely in beer and intercourse. 

My recommendation to him about discovering a mate is to start out with the fundamentals. Make sure that your look is nicely groomed and your garments are pressed and clear and match nicely. You want to have the ability to join as an individual. Are you able to communicate intelligently about your work, pursuits, passions and targets? Are you able to ask questions on these subjects, take heed to the solutions and interact in a caring dialog? If you are able to do that, the individual is extra more likely to put down their cellphone and take note of you, all towards the potential of constructing a relationship with you. — BRENT IN CALIFORNIA

Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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